Oy dear Readers The Retirement Yenta is vlogging! And she is practicing what she preaches, as she has found a great project to wean herself off business – planning her 45th high school reunion. Time to hoot and holler, shake and shimmy and party til the cows come home.
Oy! Readers, Life is like a Mah Jongg game. You always need a 4th and sometimes, you simply need a 5th. So, dear Readers, RY likes to keep her friends around. And while she may be a bit of a loner at times, your dear Yenta likes to be social. She likes to go to the theatre and to dinner with her friends. She likes to have friends over on Shabbos, too! Most of all, dear Readers, this Yenta likes to play a good game of Mah Jongg. Let a Yenta tell you how hard it can be to play with only three players! Since you need four players for a game, someone has to split their personality and play two hands! This Yenta only has a couple of friends with the acting chops to pull that off, but then, you can’t really trust that split personality to not gang up on you and the other two players!
In all seriousness, dear ones, Retirement Yenta knows that some Americans become “elder orphans” later in life. That is to say, they have no kids (or the kids live far away), they have no immediate family nearby (if at all), and they have no spouse (either because they are not married, or their spouse has Retired to the Sky). So, what’s a senior to do? Studies have shown that seniors without a support system have higher rates of mortality and illness than seniors with support systems. Some Retirees are looking into finding new ways of creating a community and a support system. This great US News Article is a great starting point!
RY wants you to manage your relationships. Plan ahead. Don’t end up alone, so you have plenty of partners to play a game or two of Mah Jongg. Just be careful of the grumpy guy in the community who might turn you in for gambling. Like this guy. RY is sure he’s going to end up playing alone.
Retirement Yenta is experiencing a bit of wanderlust. Just last evening, she was at a Girls Night Out with some dear friends from her days (daze, perhaps?) in corporate America. The topic of travel came up and your dear Yenta had a great idea: Take a Trip to Cuba. This Yenta has travelled the world and you know she loves a good beach. RY loves the island of Puerto Rico (pictured). Those tropical trade winds blowing through your Yenta’s hair and some sand between her toes makes a Yenta happy. Well, dear Readers, RY wants to try a different location and Cuba seems the perfect fit. It’s a land of no change (and you know that your Yenta dislikes change). It’s still 1955 there! RY thinks it would be cool to visit a land that lives in the time of her youth.
Your Yenta also believes that Cuba is set to become a HOT, international travel destination, and she wants to be one of the first to visit (before the cool, gritty, 1955-ness has become cloyingly cute to bring in the travelers). Since this trip was inspired by a Girls Night Out, RY wants her girls to go with her and she has decided to coin a word: Fray-cation. So with this new word, dear Readers, Retirement Yenta would like to leave you with these parting thoughts. Find a new location and fly away with your friends, a fray-cation from freezing weather is fun times for all who attend.
As the old Girl Scout song goes: Make new friends but keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold! So, true dear, Readers, so true.
This little Yenta has been in a rut lately. She is changing things up again, and she is going to get herself out there and make some new friends. These are new times, dear Readers…one might even say a Brand New Day (see Tip #330)…and new times/days call for new friends.
This is not to say RY is tossing out the old…she’s holding on to those too. Your dear Yenta’s goal is to develop new relationships with her old friends. There is a history with these friends, and lots of good stuff.
Retirement Yenta says: Plan a playdate with friends old and new. Try something different. It’s a good thing to do.
Retirement Yenta knows this: there are a LOT of people around her who love her very much, and she in return loves them right back. There are times when life throws you a curve ball or two (or four) and those people who love you will gather around you and show you their support. To these people, RY says, Thank You.
Now believe your dear Yenta, it’s not all about take, but about giving too. Your dear Yenta thinks one should be there for your friends when they need you. Be that in the form of lending an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, or even schtupping. Woah. That’s right, dear Readers, your little Yenta said schtupping. Now, settle down, little ones, RY was not talking about the slang meaning of this dear Yiddish term…she’s talking about the meaning as it was back when she was but a wee little Yenta: giving money.
With this in mind, Retirement Yenta says: When a friend is in need, do a good deed. It’s YOUR job to listen, love, laugh, cry, support, hug, and debug. Pay it forward and receive it back.
Retirement Yenta likes to socialize. This is well known to all her dear Readers. What she hasn’t shared yet is how she likes to socialize with like-minded people. Yes, that’s right, Retirement Yenta likes to find a group of friends who are living similar lives and she likes to share secrets with them. Her secret for saving. Their secret for surviving their kids. Her secret for the perfect blond coif. Their secret for saving a buck (or two). The list goes on and on. Oh, dear Readers, you may well know that sharing advice and wisdom is something a Yenta does best, but where does all that wisdom come from? Why, it comes from Retirement Yenta’s friends and neighbors. So, with this in mind, Retirement Yenta is at Miami Beach, getting to know her retired neighbors. So many are from New York City! BUT, there are many that are not. Oh the untapped resources for wisdom. Retirement Yenta suggests you find friends that are at your same or similar retirement level, you will have lots to share with one another, and the possibilities are endless (plus, you can have someone to play Bocci or Shuffle Board with!)
Retirement Yenta wants to give a shout out to her friends. Sometimes life throws for a loop…big or small, and you simply need to have an “ear to lean upon.” Well, dear Readers, it is the American season for giving thanks and your dear Yenta would like to thank her friends publicly for all their support, their listening, and their friendship. The Beatles really got it right…”I get by with a little help from my friends…yeaaaaaahhhh, I get by with a little help, a little help, a little help from my friiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiends!”
Sometimes Retirement Yenta likes to make new friends. New friends met in odd places are often the best. You never know who you will meet while standing in line at the pharmacy, or grocery store. BUT, your dear Yenta has found that the best new friends come from sharing a cab. It’s a little slice of life here in NYC to share a cab with a stranger on a night when there are few to no cabs around. Recently, the Yenta met a very cool volleyball player from Chelsea in a cab ride, and this little Yenta was enjoying the ride so much that she changed her plans and decided to go further south than she intended. Retirement Yenta says: “Make new friends. Talk to everybody. You will amuse yourself and the stranger, er…mmm…”new friend” you just met.
Your dear Yenta wants to encourage all of her readers to find and patronize a local diner. Diners are the life blood of the gastro-economic machine, and having one that you love and frequent will provide you with great solace. Where else are you going to get your lamb gyro and french fries at 2 AM? After a particularly hard day, nothing puts a smile on this Yenta’s face like a large strawberry milkshake from Metro Diner on 100th and Broadway. Oy – such a milk shake they make! Besides, as the Cheers theme song says: “Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name.”