Passover is coming, dear Readers!! This means it is spring and time for renewal. As all good Jews around the world are celebrating their freedom, so too is Retirement Yenta. She is freeing herself from her past work files. FREE FROM THESE FILES AT LAST! She no longer is kidding herself into thinking she needs these files for reference. She is pushing them out the door as fast as she can. Don’t let her manic composure fool you, this gal is ready for retirement level ten (aka watching the tides in Miami Beach). So, dearest ones, your Yenta wants you to know that everything has its season and everything has its time. She wants you to know that it has a reason and a rhyme. So, allow yourself to let go.
Oy, dear Readers. Your dear Yenta (as you may well know) suffers from anxiety. She does not do well with unstructured time…though she is learning to enjoy it more and more. She’s dealt with some of the unstructured time by creating mini-structures like watching the opening and closing bell on CNBC. But dear Readers, she has found that creating big projects are the best way to calm anxieties and create structure.
This little Yenta is currently planning her 45th high school reunion. She’s doing some of the heavy lifting for the committee and she is loving it. She loves planning a party. She loves managing lists of names and addresses. And you know what, dear Readers? She’s loving reconnecting with her old class mates. She is finding that it is so much better than those “early” reunions (5, 10, 20 years). As RY and her classmates move from the workforce to the retirementforce, she is finding new things in common with old friends. She’s also finding herself feeling pretty darned lucky that she’s survived this long, as about 12% of the class have already “Retired in the Sky.”
This little Yenta wants you to manage your Retirement Anxieties by creating a big project: Plan, Play, and Prevent those anxieties from coming your way.
Retirement Yenta has many pairs of glasses. She thinks of her glasses as fashion…they are the finishing touches of her outfit. That said, OY…dear Readers…she wonders where they are half the time, and then she runs around looking for the pair in the right case. Open…then close, pick up another, open…then close again, and on and on. Well, your dear Yenta found the perfect solution for finding the frames for which she is searching: Buy a plexiglass eye wear display case. It sits beautifully in her dressing area, it looks like an art piece with all her funky frames inside, and with one glance, your Yenta can whip out the right pair and pop ’em on her face and look ravishing.
It’s a simple storage solution which adds form and function to your morning routine.
RY would also recommend you consider returning your older frames that you aren’t wearing any longer to your eye care provider. These frames (and prescription swim goggles) can be a great help to those in need.
Retirement Yenta has said it before and she will say it again. TRAVEL LIGHT. There is no reason for anyone to be traveling to their vacation home or retirement home while lugging around a heavy bag. That’s right, dear Readers. No. Heavy. Bags. PERIOD. It’s not good for your shoulders, neck, and certainly not good for your back. So, why do it? OHHHH, you need your things close by. Right. Retirement Yenta loves her stuff and she loves it to be available in all of her homes. So, dear Readers, what’s a Yenta to do? This little Yenta takes stock of her wardrobe in NYC a week or so before she heads off to Miami Beach. She digs through her closet and says to herself, “Will this be perfect in Miami Beach?” Then she asks, “Did I buy an extra one of these to keep in Miami Beach?” (Because, she likes to keep tennis whites and other outfits in each of her homes.) If she wants it in Miami Beach, and it’s not in Miami Beach, she then ships it to herself. She has a doorman there that will deliver it to her apartment. No carrying necessary! No bad backs necessary! Your Yenta further recommends you not mail anything that is not replaceable. You never know when a bag could be lost and that’s a price you don’t want to pay, no matter the cost!
When packing, RY stuffs some necessities, a scarf, and her important papers in her computer bag, and a few other items in her big purse, and she’s ready to hit the road.
Retirement Yenta wants you to consider what you need and how to save yourself from the pain and anguish of carrying a heavy bag. Mail your travel wardrobe and non-essentials. Carry only necessities and enjoy your freedom from heaving and huffing around a hefty haul.
What are your travel tips? Let us know your thoughts!
Once upon a time, dear Readers, your dearest, little Yenta suggested you paint all of your residences in the same color schemes (See Tip #349). It worked for her for a time, but as the days and weeks passed, your Yenta began to notice that her NYC bedroom felt a little off. “Why, oh WHY?”, she wondered. Could it be that her perfect coral walls didn’t fit the NYC decor? Yep, that would be the answer, dear Readers. So, RY did a little color change up. She thought and thought about what color would work. She looked around the town and at her favorite design magazines and she decided that a nice pale gray would do the trick. It’s neutral. It’s elegant. It makes the white moldings pop. AND, her stunning white duvet, navy blue coverlet, and sunshine-y yellow pillows simply beam with her beautiful new walls. It’s sleek. It’s modern, yet traditional. It’s, well…, it’s very New York and it feels like home.
Retirement Yenta wants you to consider making a change to each of your homes. Don’t let them all feel like drones. Let the style of your town guide the colors you choose. Your throne will feel at home and you will never lose.
Here’s the, 4-1-1 dear Readers, you have too much stuff. We all do. So, your dear Yenta wants to give you the gift of nothing…well, nothing in the sense of getting rid of your clutter! Yes, Readers, RY is once again on a purge. Not to worry, she doesn’t have an eating disorder…RY is cleaning out her home. It’s amazing to this Yenta how quickly possessions pick up, pack up, and stack up in her home. When RY is doing a little dance and she spins around, as soon as the spinning stops, there are many more bottoms and tops…and dresses…and shoes…and purses. OY. How does it happen? Could it be that TJ Maxx shopping spree from two weeks ago? Or that trip to Marshalls last March? Likely. And all of those great deals were great. But now there are items in this Yenta’s closet that are serving no purpose other than taking up space. So, on a regular basis, RY thinks it is a great idea to stick her head in her closet and look around. If she sees an item in the back that has lost it’s new, shiny appeal, she pulls it out, and donates it. She also goes through her keepsakes and finds ways to reduce them by reusing them or recycling them. Take for instance, her kids’ bar and bat mitzvah invitations. RY has decided to make them into art. She had them matted and framed and they now hang on her wall, instead of sitting in a box and taking up space. They make beautiful art. She has taken boxes of photos and turned them into a Story of a Yenta’s Life coffee table book. It made a great family gift and reduced RY’s closet of 5 boxes of photos.
So, dearest Readers, Retirement Yenta wants you to once again go through your life and take a look around. Take it out, shake it about, and repurpose it, recycle it, or toss it. It will feel super clean, like water running through a new faucet.
Oy, dear Readers, OY!!! The sun, the surf, the chlorine, the wind, the sand…it can do a Yenta’s hair in! That’s right, dear Readers. You know your Yenta loves her summers. She loves her beach. She loves all of these things that are really rough of her hair. So, what does a Yenta do? She takes extra-special care of her hair. Sun, wind, salt water, chlorine, and sand can be very drying for this Yenta’s fine follicles. So, this Yenta gets conditioning treatments and keratin treatments to keep her hair silky smooth, and well-hydrated. This Yenta knows the importance of keeping her locks luxurious so it doesn’t crack, split, and tangle like a rat’s nest. RY can allow herself to get out and enjoy the sun she loves because she knows that taking care of her hair will ensure it grows. Now, dear Readers, get out and enjoy the sun, have some fun, then come home and treat your hair nice, or know if you don’t, you will certainly pay a high price.
It’s the best day of the year, dear Readers!
Retirement Yenta recently decided to treat herself to a retreat of Pilates and Yoga led by Stephanie Joiner and Morgan Miller Let a Yenta tell you, dear Readers, it was the very thing this Yenta needed! A few restorative classes, some camaraderie with the youth of today (RY was the oldest person on this trip by 20 years, easily), some wilderness, and some fresh mountain air. It was relaxing and rejuvenating. RY could not imagine how amazing the weekend was going to be before she arrived.
So whether you like exercise, jazzercise, shopper-cise, or even vacation-er-cise, RY thinks you should take some time, relax and unwind. Retirement Yenta wants you to Treat (and Re-Treat) Yo Self on a regular basis. You deserve it. #bestdayoftheyear!
“OoSReS?!? What the heck is that?” you may be thinking, dear Readers. OoSReS is Out of Sync Retirement Syndrome. Retirement Yenta just read an article about it in the AARP magazine and she thought “That’s this Yenta’s life!” Well, except in the article the hubby was retired, and the wife wanted to continue working. Let your Yenta tell you the facts. Retirement Yenta has worked her whole life. Since her early days working her youth away in a chicken coop, she has dreamed about getting out of the workforce. RY did not take family-leave time when she had kids, unlike many women. Your dear Yenta was more like the men in her field. She had her babies, and a day nanny, and a night nanny so she could continue her career. It seems these women with the career hiatus for family rearing are excited to be in the workforce and don’t want to step away from their careers. It is their identities. It is intellectually stimulating for them. RY’s Dearly Beloved Hubby (DBH) loves his job. He loves the fact that when he is working, he is helping people. He also loves the latest in gadgets and gizmos and having disposable income for the purchasing of said gizmos. AARP says this can cause a little strife in marriage. RY knows she’s a bit grumpy about the fact that she, being in her Retirement Level 7, has time off that she would like to spend with her DBH, but he is off saving the world, one tooth at a time. This is not how she imagined it would be. RY and DBH have regular discussions and meetings to make plans for the future and to define the direction they will go if and when Retirement Level 10 is achieved.
Your dear Yenta would like to advise you to begin planning early. OoSReS is very much a Baby Boomer with a two career family issue. It is important to know what each partner envisions in money and time and travel for their Golden Girl years. It will take some planning. It will take some trade-offs. It will probably take time for transitions (phased retirement levels) from each partner. But, in the end, if you plan well, you can still be best friends. RY says: Get in sync, so you can sashay down the beach, and tell the whole wide world touché today.
Oy, dear Readers…OY! Sometimes holding on to the past can weigh you down. This little Yenta is talking about articles of clothing that belonged to some dearly-departed loved ones. When RY lost her Papa Yenta she had to go through his things, sort out donations, toss some things, and make hard decisions of what to keep. She kept three articles of clothing that have sat in the back of her closet. That was a few years ago. Now, those three articles weigh heavy on your Yenta’s heart. And, they take up room in her tiny NYC closet. So, dear Readers, instead of letting these items get eaten by the moths, RY has decided to take her advice to Reduce, Reuse, & Recycle and find a way to make these items bring her joy once again. Will it be a quilt? Will it be an apron (have you tried one of RY’s shabbos meals)? Will it be a shadow box? RY has yet to decide.
So, dear Readers, this little Yenta wants you to consider purging stuff that belonged to your dearly departed loved ones, and lifting your spirits. If an item is gathering dust, take a picture, make a quilt, donate it, or simply toss it, like a salad. You will be happy to get it gone.