Oy dear Readers The Retirement Yenta is vlogging! And she is practicing what she preaches, as she has found a great project to wean herself off business – planning her 45th high school reunion. Time to hoot and holler, shake and shimmy and party til the cows come home.
Oy, dear Readers. Your dear Yenta (as you may well know) suffers from anxiety. She does not do well with unstructured time…though she is learning to enjoy it more and more. She’s dealt with some of the unstructured time by creating mini-structures like watching the opening and closing bell on CNBC. But dear Readers, she has found that creating big projects are the best way to calm anxieties and create structure.
This little Yenta is currently planning her 45th high school reunion. She’s doing some of the heavy lifting for the committee and she is loving it. She loves planning a party. She loves managing lists of names and addresses. And you know what, dear Readers? She’s loving reconnecting with her old class mates. She is finding that it is so much better than those “early” reunions (5, 10, 20 years). As RY and her classmates move from the workforce to the retirementforce, she is finding new things in common with old friends. She’s also finding herself feeling pretty darned lucky that she’s survived this long, as about 12% of the class have already “Retired in the Sky.”
This little Yenta wants you to manage your Retirement Anxieties by creating a big project: Plan, Play, and Prevent those anxieties from coming your way.
Retirement Yenta’s former boss, Jerry Golden, is blogging about Retirement. RY thinks Jerry has some good advice about anticipating Retirement in two stages. Jerry sees the first stage of retirement as being very active, doing things you didn’t have time for before. In the second stage, he suggests you might be dealing with costs of health care, a home aide, or other expenses that you didn’t anticipate. As you know all too well, dear Readers, RY is a believer in various stages of Retirement. She has her own Retirement Levels approach (10 Levels) to joining the Relaxationforce. Your dear Yenta likes to ease slowly into the Relaxationforce, finding time to practice for Retirement. This is a period where one is still working full-time. She then moves to part-time Relaxationforce/Workforce life balance. RY’s levels are fluid and can move to more or less work as one desires. This Yenta is a FIRM believer that you should be prepared to spend a significant amount of your Retirement Income on Pre-Retirement in the Sky (end of life) Care.
So, dear Readers, RY thinks today is a good day to look at your Retirement Levels. Consider where you are in the Workforce (or Relaxationforce) and consider where you want to be in 10 years, 20 years, and how you will prepare for your Retirement in the Sky. Set your goals now. Don’t wander blindly into the Relaxationforce…you might get hit by an old lady in a Hoveround.
Retirement Yenta has said it before and she will say it again. TRAVEL LIGHT. There is no reason for anyone to be traveling to their vacation home or retirement home while lugging around a heavy bag. That’s right, dear Readers. No. Heavy. Bags. PERIOD. It’s not good for your shoulders, neck, and certainly not good for your back. So, why do it? OHHHH, you need your things close by. Right. Retirement Yenta loves her stuff and she loves it to be available in all of her homes. So, dear Readers, what’s a Yenta to do? This little Yenta takes stock of her wardrobe in NYC a week or so before she heads off to Miami Beach. She digs through her closet and says to herself, “Will this be perfect in Miami Beach?” Then she asks, “Did I buy an extra one of these to keep in Miami Beach?” (Because, she likes to keep tennis whites and other outfits in each of her homes.) If she wants it in Miami Beach, and it’s not in Miami Beach, she then ships it to herself. She has a doorman there that will deliver it to her apartment. No carrying necessary! No bad backs necessary! Your Yenta further recommends you not mail anything that is not replaceable. You never know when a bag could be lost and that’s a price you don’t want to pay, no matter the cost!
When packing, RY stuffs some necessities, a scarf, and her important papers in her computer bag, and a few other items in her big purse, and she’s ready to hit the road.
Retirement Yenta wants you to consider what you need and how to save yourself from the pain and anguish of carrying a heavy bag. Mail your travel wardrobe and non-essentials. Carry only necessities and enjoy your freedom from heaving and huffing around a hefty haul.
What are your travel tips? Let us know your thoughts!
Oy! Readers, Life is like a Mah Jongg game. You always need a 4th and sometimes, you simply need a 5th. So, dear Readers, RY likes to keep her friends around. And while she may be a bit of a loner at times, your dear Yenta likes to be social. She likes to go to the theatre and to dinner with her friends. She likes to have friends over on Shabbos, too! Most of all, dear Readers, this Yenta likes to play a good game of Mah Jongg. Let a Yenta tell you how hard it can be to play with only three players! Since you need four players for a game, someone has to split their personality and play two hands! This Yenta only has a couple of friends with the acting chops to pull that off, but then, you can’t really trust that split personality to not gang up on you and the other two players!
In all seriousness, dear ones, Retirement Yenta knows that some Americans become “elder orphans” later in life. That is to say, they have no kids (or the kids live far away), they have no immediate family nearby (if at all), and they have no spouse (either because they are not married, or their spouse has Retired to the Sky). So, what’s a senior to do? Studies have shown that seniors without a support system have higher rates of mortality and illness than seniors with support systems. Some Retirees are looking into finding new ways of creating a community and a support system. This great US News Article is a great starting point!
RY wants you to manage your relationships. Plan ahead. Don’t end up alone, so you have plenty of partners to play a game or two of Mah Jongg. Just be careful of the grumpy guy in the community who might turn you in for gambling. Like this guy. RY is sure he’s going to end up playing alone.
Leisure, dear Readers, is luxurious. Your dear Yenta loves to luxuriate in her leisure. Now mind you, she is no Leisure Suit Larry. She knows how to live it up and get her work done. She also knows that too much leisure is not good for the soul, and neither is too little. RY has friends living in the land of Retirement that have schedules with activities every minute of every day. It makes this Yenta nervous. She also has friends in the land of Retirement who have no plans. They sit and read, and watch some tv. OY, this makes a Yenta nervous, too. Your Yenta needs balance in her life (maybe its because RY has been doing too much yoga). She needs time off, she needs scheduled activities, and she needs work. Small doses of each give this Yenta the balance she needs. She does not want to suffer from Retirement Burn Out. She wants to relax and chillax without it becoming too much.
Now, RY wants you to know that her recipe for leisure is not the same for other’s recipes for leisure. RY believes that everyone needs to strike the balance that works for themselves. Some need to ramp up their activities, others need to read more. It’s up to you!
Retirement Yenta says: Manage your leisure. Plan your time. If you find yourself anxious, mix it up. Find the balance that works for you, so your brain doesn’t turn to fluff.
Here’s the, 4-1-1 dear Readers, you have too much stuff. We all do. So, your dear Yenta wants to give you the gift of nothing…well, nothing in the sense of getting rid of your clutter! Yes, Readers, RY is once again on a purge. Not to worry, she doesn’t have an eating disorder…RY is cleaning out her home. It’s amazing to this Yenta how quickly possessions pick up, pack up, and stack up in her home. When RY is doing a little dance and she spins around, as soon as the spinning stops, there are many more bottoms and tops…and dresses…and shoes…and purses. OY. How does it happen? Could it be that TJ Maxx shopping spree from two weeks ago? Or that trip to Marshalls last March? Likely. And all of those great deals were great. But now there are items in this Yenta’s closet that are serving no purpose other than taking up space. So, on a regular basis, RY thinks it is a great idea to stick her head in her closet and look around. If she sees an item in the back that has lost it’s new, shiny appeal, she pulls it out, and donates it. She also goes through her keepsakes and finds ways to reduce them by reusing them or recycling them. Take for instance, her kids’ bar and bat mitzvah invitations. RY has decided to make them into art. She had them matted and framed and they now hang on her wall, instead of sitting in a box and taking up space. They make beautiful art. She has taken boxes of photos and turned them into a Story of a Yenta’s Life coffee table book. It made a great family gift and reduced RY’s closet of 5 boxes of photos.
So, dearest Readers, Retirement Yenta wants you to once again go through your life and take a look around. Take it out, shake it about, and repurpose it, recycle it, or toss it. It will feel super clean, like water running through a new faucet.
Retirement Yenta believes retirees need to avoid renting and buying homes with stairs inside. She also knows stairs are a good form of exercise, but she knows all to well the problems that can come with constantly having to climb stairs in an advanced age. So, dear Readers, RY wants to recommend you get yourself in peak performance shape. That’s right, dear Readers, get out there, climb some stairs, walk, jog, run, do some Pilates and yoga–get yourself in shape NOW so you have better control of your core and fine motor skills in your older age. The better shape you are in, the better your balance, and the better your balance, the less likely you will be to fall and break a hip. Retirement Yenta also knows that working out will help you stay in shape and keep off the pounds. Dear Readers, do you know what extra pounds can do to a set of knees? Even though we get old and squeaky as we age, we don’t want to add to the aches and pains. So, make a date with getting in shape. Take care of your knees and heart so you don’t become a fat, old fart.
Retirement Yenta has been ruminating on her 400th tip: Treat. Yo. Self. She loved her retreat and she has been thinking about one thing recently. The length of the trip was absolutely perfect. Over her many years of travel, RY has learned that, like a fish that’s been out of water too many days, trips that are too long can start to stink. Now dear Readers, RY knows what you are asking: “What about your trips to your Retirement Home?” Well, dear Ones, trips to other homes are a totally different story. In your 2nd home, you are surrounded by your own personal things. There are pictures of the kids, Office Pug, dear friends, your own food, your full Retirement Wardrobe, and even your own tennis racquet. When on the road to other destinations, RY packs light. She doesn’t need to get tennis elbow from carrying a heavy suitcase! She’s saving that one for the courts!
Retirement Yenta says: Make your getaways quick. You will feel relaxed, rejuvenated, and anything but sick. You can then save some time and your own dime for heading to your own beach lickety split, for my dear Readers, variety is the spice of life!!
It’s the best day of the year, dear Readers!
Retirement Yenta recently decided to treat herself to a retreat of Pilates and Yoga led by Stephanie Joiner and Morgan Miller Let a Yenta tell you, dear Readers, it was the very thing this Yenta needed! A few restorative classes, some camaraderie with the youth of today (RY was the oldest person on this trip by 20 years, easily), some wilderness, and some fresh mountain air. It was relaxing and rejuvenating. RY could not imagine how amazing the weekend was going to be before she arrived.
So whether you like exercise, jazzercise, shopper-cise, or even vacation-er-cise, RY thinks you should take some time, relax and unwind. Retirement Yenta wants you to Treat (and Re-Treat) Yo Self on a regular basis. You deserve it. #bestdayoftheyear!