Passover is coming, dear Readers!! This means it is spring and time for renewal. As all good Jews around the world are celebrating their freedom, so too is Retirement Yenta. She is freeing herself from her past work files. FREE FROM THESE FILES AT LAST! She no longer is kidding herself into thinking she needs these files for reference. She is pushing them out the door as fast as she can. Don’t let her manic composure fool you, this gal is ready for retirement level ten (aka watching the tides in Miami Beach). So, dearest ones, your Yenta wants you to know that everything has its season and everything has its time. She wants you to know that it has a reason and a rhyme. So, allow yourself to let go.
Oy, dear Readers. Your dear Yenta (as you may well know) suffers from anxiety. She does not do well with unstructured time…though she is learning to enjoy it more and more. She’s dealt with some of the unstructured time by creating mini-structures like watching the opening and closing bell on CNBC. But dear Readers, she has found that creating big projects are the best way to calm anxieties and create structure.
This little Yenta is currently planning her 45th high school reunion. She’s doing some of the heavy lifting for the committee and she is loving it. She loves planning a party. She loves managing lists of names and addresses. And you know what, dear Readers? She’s loving reconnecting with her old class mates. She is finding that it is so much better than those “early” reunions (5, 10, 20 years). As RY and her classmates move from the workforce to the retirementforce, she is finding new things in common with old friends. She’s also finding herself feeling pretty darned lucky that she’s survived this long, as about 12% of the class have already “Retired in the Sky.”
This little Yenta wants you to manage your Retirement Anxieties by creating a big project: Plan, Play, and Prevent those anxieties from coming your way.
Retirement Yenta knows the holidays are upon us. The annual office party is around the corner. Getting together with the Girls Going Places group just whizzed by so fast that your dear Yenta saw a blur of blonde hair and pearls. Plus, your dear Yenta knows that a holiday party can pop up at almost any time…and she wants YOU to be prepared.
This little Yenta likes to play with her traditional work attire and add a little bling to the outfit to make it festive. Your Yenta loves a crisp, white blouse with French cuffs. Paired with black pants and a black jacket, it is elegant for work. Add velvet pants or sequin pants and you have a party in your pocket! Skip the socks…pretend you are a Gal from Connecticut! Pair those snazzy pants and sock-less shoes with a touristy NYC tote as a purse with your finest pearls and you have a fun, quirky, elegant outfit that says HOLIDAY PARTY.
RY wants you to know that this little outfit creation is even more fun for those who have retired and have no real use for their work clothes any longer. If you have a suit sitting in the closet that you just can’t quite give up, pair it with some sparkles, add a twist of something fun that you would never wear to the office and get together with your old buddies. Maybe you want to have a Retirement Office Party (in the vein of RY’s Borrow a Boss Tip). Here’s what ya do. Gather your best pals from your working days for a party. Maybe they are a group that all worked at the same firm, or maybe they worked at several of your old work places. You all wear your Holiday Work Wear Ensembles (described above). You name someone the boss. You eat a little too much. Drink a lot too much. Laugh about the old days. Challenge each other to try something new. Give an award or two for “jobs well done.” Congratulate yourselves and then stumble home and be happy you don’t have to go into the office the next day!
RY says: Make that old work outfit snazzy. Sparkle it up for the Holiday. Have a party (or four). Drink a little too much…just don’t fall asleep and snore.
Retirement Yenta has many pairs of glasses. She thinks of her glasses as fashion…they are the finishing touches of her outfit. That said, OY…dear Readers…she wonders where they are half the time, and then she runs around looking for the pair in the right case. Open…then close, pick up another, open…then close again, and on and on. Well, your dear Yenta found the perfect solution for finding the frames for which she is searching: Buy a plexiglass eye wear display case. It sits beautifully in her dressing area, it looks like an art piece with all her funky frames inside, and with one glance, your Yenta can whip out the right pair and pop ’em on her face and look ravishing.
It’s a simple storage solution which adds form and function to your morning routine.
RY would also recommend you consider returning your older frames that you aren’t wearing any longer to your eye care provider. These frames (and prescription swim goggles) can be a great help to those in need.
That’s right, dear Readers. RY has a clean bum. Your dear Yenta has always been a fan of back door cleanliness, but when her Hubby came home with a bidet seat for their shared throne, RY thought he had gone a little bonkers. This crapper capper came with an electrical plug and a remote control. Your Yenta thought, “Will I know which button to push? Will I get electrocuted from the water splashing all around? Will I push the wrong button and end up on the floor with my pants down?” Dearest Readers, you know these are all serious concerns. Can you imagine the 911 call if one of these scenarios came true? Can you imagine lying there with your pants down and the paramedics trying to resuscitate you? Well, your dear Yenta has solved the problem. First, let your Yenta recommend you get professional installation. It may cost a few extra dollars, but the extra security is worth it! RY’s second piece of advice is to read the instruction manual. Normally, RY is a hunt-and-peck kind of gal when it comes to figuring out how something works, but with this item, she is happy to know she knows what all the bidet remote control buttons do. Now, your dear Yenta feels like a European Queen when she sits high upon her throne. AND, she has electronic helpers to make sure she’s clean once she has finished dropping the kids off at the pool.
RY wants to share this buying guide with you. It has great advice to guide you in choosing the best bidet for your needs. Did you know they have models with adjustable spray width, oscillating cleanse, water pulse cleanse, and turbo/enema wash options? RY and the Dearly Beloved Hubs are happy with the CleanSense model.
Retirement Yenta says: Be good to your Bum and you will want to hum. Buy a bidet, sit on your throne, press “play” and turbo wash those stains away! Your little hiney will be nice and shiny!
Retirement Yenta’s former boss, Jerry Golden, is blogging about Retirement. RY thinks Jerry has some good advice about anticipating Retirement in two stages. Jerry sees the first stage of retirement as being very active, doing things you didn’t have time for before. In the second stage, he suggests you might be dealing with costs of health care, a home aide, or other expenses that you didn’t anticipate. As you know all too well, dear Readers, RY is a believer in various stages of Retirement. She has her own Retirement Levels approach (10 Levels) to joining the Relaxationforce. Your dear Yenta likes to ease slowly into the Relaxationforce, finding time to practice for Retirement. This is a period where one is still working full-time. She then moves to part-time Relaxationforce/Workforce life balance. RY’s levels are fluid and can move to more or less work as one desires. This Yenta is a FIRM believer that you should be prepared to spend a significant amount of your Retirement Income on Pre-Retirement in the Sky (end of life) Care.
So, dear Readers, RY thinks today is a good day to look at your Retirement Levels. Consider where you are in the Workforce (or Relaxationforce) and consider where you want to be in 10 years, 20 years, and how you will prepare for your Retirement in the Sky. Set your goals now. Don’t wander blindly into the Relaxationforce…you might get hit by an old lady in a Hoveround.
Retirement Yenta has said it before and she will say it again. TRAVEL LIGHT. There is no reason for anyone to be traveling to their vacation home or retirement home while lugging around a heavy bag. That’s right, dear Readers. No. Heavy. Bags. PERIOD. It’s not good for your shoulders, neck, and certainly not good for your back. So, why do it? OHHHH, you need your things close by. Right. Retirement Yenta loves her stuff and she loves it to be available in all of her homes. So, dear Readers, what’s a Yenta to do? This little Yenta takes stock of her wardrobe in NYC a week or so before she heads off to Miami Beach. She digs through her closet and says to herself, “Will this be perfect in Miami Beach?” Then she asks, “Did I buy an extra one of these to keep in Miami Beach?” (Because, she likes to keep tennis whites and other outfits in each of her homes.) If she wants it in Miami Beach, and it’s not in Miami Beach, she then ships it to herself. She has a doorman there that will deliver it to her apartment. No carrying necessary! No bad backs necessary! Your Yenta further recommends you not mail anything that is not replaceable. You never know when a bag could be lost and that’s a price you don’t want to pay, no matter the cost!
When packing, RY stuffs some necessities, a scarf, and her important papers in her computer bag, and a few other items in her big purse, and she’s ready to hit the road.
Retirement Yenta wants you to consider what you need and how to save yourself from the pain and anguish of carrying a heavy bag. Mail your travel wardrobe and non-essentials. Carry only necessities and enjoy your freedom from heaving and huffing around a hefty haul.
What are your travel tips? Let us know your thoughts!
The Jewish holidays are in full swing here at Retirement Yenta’s house and throughout the world. This has inspired your dear Yenta to evaluate her life and her relationships with family and friends. Having lived in New York City most of her life, this Yenta finds it difficult to ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness is something that is not intuitive to New Yorkers. Residents of this City have to push their way through life just to survive. So, when these holidays roll around every year, it is a great practice for RY to take stock, evaluate her relationships, and to encourage herself to consider how she could be a better person (and a better Yenta).
Dear Readers, if you are not Jewish, RY wants to recommend you consider following this long-standing custom of the Jewish people. In evaluating your life, and sincerely asking for forgiveness from friends and family…soul to soul, you can learn about yourself, you will (hopefully) become a better person, and you will feel lighter and renewed. Twelve step programs have recognized this as a way for people in addiction recovery to start their new life. This little Yenta knows that one does not need to be in recovery to have that need to start afresh.
Retirement Yenta wants you to refresh, renew, and recover relationships by asking for forgiveness…holding on to the past, is not such a blast…forgive and let go. It is worth it so!
Once upon a time, dear Readers, your dearest, little Yenta suggested you paint all of your residences in the same color schemes (See Tip #349). It worked for her for a time, but as the days and weeks passed, your Yenta began to notice that her NYC bedroom felt a little off. “Why, oh WHY?”, she wondered. Could it be that her perfect coral walls didn’t fit the NYC decor? Yep, that would be the answer, dear Readers. So, RY did a little color change up. She thought and thought about what color would work. She looked around the town and at her favorite design magazines and she decided that a nice pale gray would do the trick. It’s neutral. It’s elegant. It makes the white moldings pop. AND, her stunning white duvet, navy blue coverlet, and sunshine-y yellow pillows simply beam with her beautiful new walls. It’s sleek. It’s modern, yet traditional. It’s, well…, it’s very New York and it feels like home.
Retirement Yenta wants you to consider making a change to each of your homes. Don’t let them all feel like drones. Let the style of your town guide the colors you choose. Your throne will feel at home and you will never lose.
Retirement Yenta is a woman of many moods, and one of many different temperatures. She’s hot, she’s cold, she has a hard time finding a temperature that’s just right. One might call her the Goldilocks of Yentas. This can be problematic for a Yenta when she goes a-callin’ on her friends and neighbors. Their comfy temp may not be this Yenta’s comfy temp. So, dear Readers, RY suggests you prepare for any situation with a light weight, sleeveless cashmere sweater from Eileen Fisher. It’s comfy. It’s soft. It’s warm. Annnnd, it’s cool. It’s something that can easily be layered under or over something, or it can be worn alone.
Retirement Yenta wants you to think about layering for comfort, fashion, and being prepared for any situation. Be a happy Goldilocks and have the clothing items you need to feel just right.