Oy dear Readers The Retirement Yenta is vlogging! And she is practicing what she preaches, as she has found a great project to wean herself off business – planning her 45th high school reunion. Time to hoot and holler, shake and shimmy and party til the cows come home.
Oy, dear Readers. Your dear Yenta (as you may well know) suffers from anxiety. She does not do well with unstructured time…though she is learning to enjoy it more and more. She’s dealt with some of the unstructured time by creating mini-structures like watching the opening and closing bell on CNBC. But dear Readers, she has found that creating big projects are the best way to calm anxieties and create structure.
This little Yenta is currently planning her 45th high school reunion. She’s doing some of the heavy lifting for the committee and she is loving it. She loves planning a party. She loves managing lists of names and addresses. And you know what, dear Readers? She’s loving reconnecting with her old class mates. She is finding that it is so much better than those “early” reunions (5, 10, 20 years). As RY and her classmates move from the workforce to the retirementforce, she is finding new things in common with old friends. She’s also finding herself feeling pretty darned lucky that she’s survived this long, as about 12% of the class have already “Retired in the Sky.”
This little Yenta wants you to manage your Retirement Anxieties by creating a big project: Plan, Play, and Prevent those anxieties from coming your way.
Retirement Yenta knows the holidays are upon us. The annual office party is around the corner. Getting together with the Girls Going Places group just whizzed by so fast that your dear Yenta saw a blur of blonde hair and pearls. Plus, your dear Yenta knows that a holiday party can pop up at almost any time…and she wants YOU to be prepared.
This little Yenta likes to play with her traditional work attire and add a little bling to the outfit to make it festive. Your Yenta loves a crisp, white blouse with French cuffs. Paired with black pants and a black jacket, it is elegant for work. Add velvet pants or sequin pants and you have a party in your pocket! Skip the socks…pretend you are a Gal from Connecticut! Pair those snazzy pants and sock-less shoes with a touristy NYC tote as a purse with your finest pearls and you have a fun, quirky, elegant outfit that says HOLIDAY PARTY.
RY wants you to know that this little outfit creation is even more fun for those who have retired and have no real use for their work clothes any longer. If you have a suit sitting in the closet that you just can’t quite give up, pair it with some sparkles, add a twist of something fun that you would never wear to the office and get together with your old buddies. Maybe you want to have a Retirement Office Party (in the vein of RY’s Borrow a Boss Tip). Here’s what ya do. Gather your best pals from your working days for a party. Maybe they are a group that all worked at the same firm, or maybe they worked at several of your old work places. You all wear your Holiday Work Wear Ensembles (described above). You name someone the boss. You eat a little too much. Drink a lot too much. Laugh about the old days. Challenge each other to try something new. Give an award or two for “jobs well done.” Congratulate yourselves and then stumble home and be happy you don’t have to go into the office the next day!
RY says: Make that old work outfit snazzy. Sparkle it up for the Holiday. Have a party (or four). Drink a little too much…just don’t fall asleep and snore.
Retirement Yenta has had a rough day or so. This election did not go the way she wanted. But, dear Readers, your dear Yenta wants to remind you of her past Tip #391: Get Out and Vote, and then Get Out!, Now, Readers, RY is not recommending you leave the country (although she has some friends that are seriously searching for ways to emigrate to another country). Your Yenta’s advice was to vote early and to hop a plane to your favorite location and then to watch the returns from there. She also thanked Susan B. Anthony (Suzy B.) for helping women secure the right to vote.
No matter where you fall on the political spectrum, you have to agree this election was historic. Women were able to vote for a female president. How cool was that?
There are more elections to come, dear Readers. So, if you aren’t happy, get out and vote…but for now, kindness is a fantastic cure for what ails you. It will also help combat the ugliness that reared its head over the past year and a half.
RY would like to close by reminding you to get out early…check out the long lines we had in NYC.
Retirement Yenta is a woman of many moods, and one of many different temperatures. She’s hot, she’s cold, she has a hard time finding a temperature that’s just right. One might call her the Goldilocks of Yentas. This can be problematic for a Yenta when she goes a-callin’ on her friends and neighbors. Their comfy temp may not be this Yenta’s comfy temp. So, dear Readers, RY suggests you prepare for any situation with a light weight, sleeveless cashmere sweater from Eileen Fisher. It’s comfy. It’s soft. It’s warm. Annnnd, it’s cool. It’s something that can easily be layered under or over something, or it can be worn alone.
Retirement Yenta wants you to think about layering for comfort, fashion, and being prepared for any situation. Be a happy Goldilocks and have the clothing items you need to feel just right.
Oy! Readers, Life is like a Mah Jongg game. You always need a 4th and sometimes, you simply need a 5th. So, dear Readers, RY likes to keep her friends around. And while she may be a bit of a loner at times, your dear Yenta likes to be social. She likes to go to the theatre and to dinner with her friends. She likes to have friends over on Shabbos, too! Most of all, dear Readers, this Yenta likes to play a good game of Mah Jongg. Let a Yenta tell you how hard it can be to play with only three players! Since you need four players for a game, someone has to split their personality and play two hands! This Yenta only has a couple of friends with the acting chops to pull that off, but then, you can’t really trust that split personality to not gang up on you and the other two players!
In all seriousness, dear ones, Retirement Yenta knows that some Americans become “elder orphans” later in life. That is to say, they have no kids (or the kids live far away), they have no immediate family nearby (if at all), and they have no spouse (either because they are not married, or their spouse has Retired to the Sky). So, what’s a senior to do? Studies have shown that seniors without a support system have higher rates of mortality and illness than seniors with support systems. Some Retirees are looking into finding new ways of creating a community and a support system. This great US News Article is a great starting point!
RY wants you to manage your relationships. Plan ahead. Don’t end up alone, so you have plenty of partners to play a game or two of Mah Jongg. Just be careful of the grumpy guy in the community who might turn you in for gambling. Like this guy. RY is sure he’s going to end up playing alone.
Leisure, dear Readers, is luxurious. Your dear Yenta loves to luxuriate in her leisure. Now mind you, she is no Leisure Suit Larry. She knows how to live it up and get her work done. She also knows that too much leisure is not good for the soul, and neither is too little. RY has friends living in the land of Retirement that have schedules with activities every minute of every day. It makes this Yenta nervous. She also has friends in the land of Retirement who have no plans. They sit and read, and watch some tv. OY, this makes a Yenta nervous, too. Your Yenta needs balance in her life (maybe its because RY has been doing too much yoga). She needs time off, she needs scheduled activities, and she needs work. Small doses of each give this Yenta the balance she needs. She does not want to suffer from Retirement Burn Out. She wants to relax and chillax without it becoming too much.
Now, RY wants you to know that her recipe for leisure is not the same for other’s recipes for leisure. RY believes that everyone needs to strike the balance that works for themselves. Some need to ramp up their activities, others need to read more. It’s up to you!
Retirement Yenta says: Manage your leisure. Plan your time. If you find yourself anxious, mix it up. Find the balance that works for you, so your brain doesn’t turn to fluff.
Retirement Yenta went to the movies recently! She loves a good night out on the town. She also loves money (as you may well know, dear Readers). This little gem of a movie combined both for your dear Yenta. This is the story of the “she-wolves” (not she-males) of Wall Street. It centers around a woman who fights for the opportunity to take a start-up public, hoping the IPO will secure her a place at the firm’s highest level. Being Wall Street, there is a tangled web of deception and office politics. Look out, dear Readers! It’s high drama!
Your dear Yenta will leave you with the trailer and her favorite quote: Don’t let money be a dirty word!
Oy, dear Readers, OY!!! The sun, the surf, the chlorine, the wind, the sand…it can do a Yenta’s hair in! That’s right, dear Readers. You know your Yenta loves her summers. She loves her beach. She loves all of these things that are really rough of her hair. So, what does a Yenta do? She takes extra-special care of her hair. Sun, wind, salt water, chlorine, and sand can be very drying for this Yenta’s fine follicles. So, this Yenta gets conditioning treatments and keratin treatments to keep her hair silky smooth, and well-hydrated. This Yenta knows the importance of keeping her locks luxurious so it doesn’t crack, split, and tangle like a rat’s nest. RY can allow herself to get out and enjoy the sun she loves because she knows that taking care of her hair will ensure it grows. Now, dear Readers, get out and enjoy the sun, have some fun, then come home and treat your hair nice, or know if you don’t, you will certainly pay a high price.
Retirement Yenta has been ruminating on her 400th tip: Treat. Yo. Self. She loved her retreat and she has been thinking about one thing recently. The length of the trip was absolutely perfect. Over her many years of travel, RY has learned that, like a fish that’s been out of water too many days, trips that are too long can start to stink. Now dear Readers, RY knows what you are asking: “What about your trips to your Retirement Home?” Well, dear Ones, trips to other homes are a totally different story. In your 2nd home, you are surrounded by your own personal things. There are pictures of the kids, Office Pug, dear friends, your own food, your full Retirement Wardrobe, and even your own tennis racquet. When on the road to other destinations, RY packs light. She doesn’t need to get tennis elbow from carrying a heavy suitcase! She’s saving that one for the courts!
Retirement Yenta says: Make your getaways quick. You will feel relaxed, rejuvenated, and anything but sick. You can then save some time and your own dime for heading to your own beach lickety split, for my dear Readers, variety is the spice of life!!